Weighed in a 8llbs lighter than I started two weeks ago

Marvin's Web Site is a Good Example

Check out Marvin Miles' web site for an example of how to use the Blog as a JOURNAL:
http://marvinxlchallenge.blogspot.com/

Get Your Mind out of the Gutter

My god, what do you have in there?!?

Have you taken a good look at your mind lately?

It's a mess.

There's newspaper clippings and old memories and conversations that went bad from weeks
ago.

There are self-limiting beliefs and negative self-talk and fear and doubts that would make
Superman fall to his knees begging for mercy.

In short, there's a lot of crap.

But it doesn't have to be that way...does it?

I mean, what would it take to clear out all of that junk, all of that filth?

SUCCESS!

Don't you think that you could start to let go of all of the defeatist self-talk and fear and
doubt if you STARTED EXPERIENCING SUCCESS?!?

Ah, but remember that old story from Earl Nightingales, "The Strangest Secret in the
World."

The story of the man who has it backwards.

The man who, shivering in the cold of his room, stares angrily at his stove and says,

"I'll give you wood if you give me heat."

That's not the way the world works.

If you want success, you're going to have to FIRST clean the toxins from your mind.

And you KNOW how to do it.

You're just not doing it.  Yet.

Commit to today creating some clear pictures of what you want to start happening
in your life and business.

Not just the "end" results but the intermediate results.

Like if you're a new real estate investor, don't just focus on "I got to get my first deal. 
I got to get my first deal."

Focus on the situations that LEAD to that first deal.

Envision your phone ringing.  Envision people sending you referrals of ugly properties.
Envision people responding to your marketing.

Why is that important?

Because when you focus on those things - the things over which you have some control -
you're back in charge.

You can take action today to get your phone to ring.

You can take action today to get people to send you referrals.

You can take action today to make it more likely that sellers will respond to your marketing.

And NOW you have the most important piece of the puzzle...

The cover of the box which shows what the puzzle looks like all together.

So commit today to do some cleaning and start focusing your mind where it can do the most
good.

Get CRYSTAL CLEAR on the near term results that, once created, will lead you to your BIG
GOALS.

And then throw yourself into the actions that you KNOW will move you towards those near
term results.

That's the Extra-Ordinary Path to YOUR Extraordinary Life!

Frazier

Frazier O'Leary
Marketing Master and Your Chief ELF (Extraordinary Life Facilitator)
The XL (Extraordinary Life) Project

Weigh In -

My official weight and waist size is being kept at my Personal Trainer's office but here's my weigh in on my home scale.

230 - down from 238 two weeks before

I'm adding the Virtual Tour to the web site RIGHT NOW!

http://www.XLChallenge.com/XLPage.cfm?results_id=427281
Check out the AWESOME community for supporting you while you are UNLEASHING your Extraordinary Life

I created a camtasia tutorial showing my XL members how to update twitter (and facebook) via email

http://www.XLChallenge.com/XLPage.cfm?results_id=427281

Whatchu Going to Do About It...Punk?

I just got back from "toddler time" at the pre-school that my son (Frazier V) will
be attending next year. All of the playground sets and slides and sandboxes
reminded me of MY time in elementary school and the way that kids learned to
solve problems.

If you were playing with a ball and some other kid (bigger, bully-type kid) took it,
you yelled, "Hey, that's not fair. Gimme that. That's mine." And the response you got from the
bigger, stronger kid was...

"Whatchu going to do about it?"

I thought about that as I was driving home and I realized that that interchange still
happens every day.

Every day, there are things in YOUR life that you *wish* were different. That you *wish*
would change. About which you might say, "Hey, that's not fair. Gimme that. That's mine."

Maybe it's more money and a successful business. Maybe it's more freedom. Maybe it's a
better, more attractive body (through losing weight). Maybe it's more happiness.

Maybe it's more FUN.

But, regardless, you WANT IT.

"Hey, that's not fair. Gimme that. That's mine".

And the world says,

"Whatchu going to do about it?"

Now the good news here is that the world is not a little punk who wants to take your lunch
money.

The world just wants to know,

"Whatchup going to do about it?"

Are you prepared to make a change?

Are you prepared to STOP doing some things and START doing some other things?

Are you prepared to change the way you think and the way you speak?

Are you prepared to STRETCH your comfort zone and challenge yourself?

Are you prepared to connect with the people that you need to connect with to accelerate
your progress?

Or....

Are you just going sit there and WHINE about how "unfair" life is?

The EXTRAORDINARY approach is to GET SERIOUS. To GET CLEAR about what you want and
HOW to get it.

To develop a clear, specific, compelling plan that takes into account your "usual suspects" (the things
that have derailed you in the past) and the people, resources, knowledge that you need to accelerate
your success.

The EXTRAORDINARY approach is to get crystal clear on what the PRICE is of having what you want
and then resolving to PAY THAT PRICE.

Sounds tough right?

That's why it's EXTRA-ORDINARY.

My challenge to you is to take the EXTRAORDINARY approach and watch how quickly you
separate yourself from the pack. It was once said that "There are never any traffic jams on the Extra Mile."

That's the path to YOUR Extraordinary Life!

Frazier

Frazier O'Leary
Marketing Master and Your Chief ELF (Extraordinary Life Facilitator)
The XL (Extraordinary Life) Project

P.S. For those of you who are "tackling" losing weight, I'm interviewing Josef Brandenburg, the author of "The Body You Want" and the XL Challenge Fitness Advisor, today to talk about how to FINALLY overcome your fitness issues. Make sure to register for the XL Challenge at http://www.XLChallenge.com to access THAT and other XL accelerating resources and to join a community of achievers!

P.S. You don't have to take on UNLEASHING YOUR EXTRAORDINARY LIFE Alone.

MAKE THE DECISION to join our XL Accelerator program. I can't tell you
how important making a COMMITMENT will be to your success. I'm going to
make it worth your while - in terms of bonuses and even in terms of some
BIG income opportunities - but I'm asking you to trust me right now and
"make the leap".

http://www.RealEstateCNG.com/ExtraordinaryOffer

I've reserved a few slots at my upcoming "MASTERING MARKETING:
Learn to Transform Your Life and Business by Applying Breakthrough
Marketing Strategies" small group mastermind workshop for long time
Real Estate CNG members but I can't hold them forever.

Take action now and you'll have the confidence that NOTHING can hold you
back from UNLEASHING your Extraordinary Life over the next 30 days.

Here's a sampling of what you get when you "jump into the pool" with the
XL Accelerator package:

* Bonus - our $1997 "Finding and Flipping" Training Program including
our "Finding and Flipping" manual, 3 months access to the "Finding and
Flipping" Wholesalers Resource Center, and a ticket to our Day Long
"Finding and Flipping" Wholesales Intensive Training

* our "Real Estate Wealth Secrets" 175 page handbook with transcripts
of my interviews with the top investors in DC, MD, and VA about:
o Short Sales (Tammy Phelps)
o Buy and Hold Investing (Joseph Asamoah)
o Wholesaling (Brad Chandler)
o Lease Options (Minh Pham)
o Negotiation and Deal Closing (Jason Hanson)
o Buying REOs (Will Lansing)

* My "Your Extraordinary Life Unleashed" Handbook with exercises,
checklists, and resources for supporting you transforming your life including:

Organizing Your Environment
Overcoming Information Overload
Losing Weight
Having more fun
Tackling Your "undones"
Building More Powerful Relationships
Raising Healthier, Happier, more Successful Children
Becoming a LEADER in your own life

* The Video, Audio, and Materials from our "Mastering Marketing"
mastermind Workshop (if you miss out on attending)

* BONUS Resources from XL Fitness Advisor, Josef Brandenburg, author of
"The Body You Want" and XL Self-Control Advisors, Dr. Alexis Platt and Tracy
James, from "The Craving Solution"

* The XL Accelerator package comes with an unheard of "Delight and Amaze"
guarantee which states that if after 30 days, you are not seeing RADICAL changes
in your success through the program, not only will I refund your money, but I WILL
pay for the return shipping, AND I will pay you a $100.00 "Sorry I wasted your time" bonus!

* You have NOTHING to lose and EVERYTHING to gain. Make the decision now
to transform your life!

http://www.RealEstateCNG.com/ExtraordinaryOffer

I GUARANTEE that you'll be delighted that you did!

Are you prepared for the truth?

Are you sure you're prepared for the truth?

Are you sure that you can handle it?

You want the truth?  You can't handle the truth!

THe truth is that you've been lying to yourself for so long that you don't know what the truth is.

The truth is that what you THINK is your problem is not your problem at all.

It's a "smokescreen".

You *think* your problem is that you just don't know enough yet about investing.

Or you *think* your problem is you don't have the right team members.

Or you *think* that you JUST NEED A MENTOR.

It's all B.S.

Your "problem" is that you haven't fully committed to being a successful real estate investor/entrepreneur.

And you know what?

That might be a good thing.

It MIGHT be that part of you knows that, while you WANT all of the money, freedom, prestige, and excitement of a creative real estate investor, you're really NOT ready to commit.

It's really not for you.

Now, another part of you doesn't want to hear that.

It's screaming, "But I'm sure.  I definitely, definitely want to be a mini-mogul".

Well, I call, "B.S."

Your actions are screaming so loudly that I can't hear what you're saying.

The only thing separating you from your goals is CLARITY and COMMITMENT. 

And, if you haven't ALREADY realized your goals, then you're lacking in one or both.

Stop lying to yourself.

The truth will set you free.

In order to get the success you want, you need two things:  The right Vehicle and the right driver.

Tomorrow, at noon, I'm going to lead the people who have had the courage to start their Extraordinary
Life Challenge through exactly what they need to do to CHOOSE the right vehicle and
to BECOME the right driver.

Are you ready to CHANGE things ONCE and FOR ALL?

Join my Extraordinary Life Accelerator Coaching program today and you can still
qualify for over $2,000 worth of bonuses AND get on the wait list for my upcoming
"Mastering Marketing: Transform Your Business and Your Life by Learning the
Breakthrough Marketing Strategies which will CHANGE EVERYTHING" small group mastermind
workshop during which I show you EXACTLY how to master the skill that will open every
door and make everything that you touch turn to GOLD.

It's THAT powerful.

http://www.XLChallenge.com/ExtraordinaryOffer

Don't miss out on this opportunity to connect with the group and the resources and the coaching
that will literally change your life in less than 30 days...guaranteed. 

You don't need more information.  You need to become a different person.

That's when your life will start to change.

And it's all in your grasp.  Right now.  Today.

If you have the courage to claim it.

http://www.XLChallenge.com/ExtraordinaryOffer

Frazier

Frazier O'Leary

Marketing Master and Chief ELF (Extraordinary Life Facilitator)

The XL Project

P.S. Wherever you are right now - in terms of time, money, energy level, frustration or excitement,
you have the opportunity to supercharge your results...By taking your foot off the brakes.

Can you do that?

Will you do that?

When?

Why not let the answer be, "NOW!"

Let me personally show you how to unleash the Extraordinary Life within you and start enjoying it.

It doesn't have to be as hard as you've been making it.

IF you can master the secret skills that the SUPER RICH know and that you've been brainwashed to overlook.

Join me and let's get started!

http://www.XLChallenge.com/ExtraordinaryOffer

 

How to Buy a Million Dollar House

I posed this question last week during our "Building Wealth through Real Estate"
workshop last week and I want to "re-pose" it to you:

"What do you need to buy a million dollar house?"

I got a lot of answers - "a million dollars", "great credit", "a plan to rehab it", etc, but
the truth of the matter is that what you need to buy a million dollar house is....

(drumroll please)

A Million dollar house.

We live in a great society where we can borrow the money to buy a house and use
as the necessary collateral for the loan, the ASSET that we don't even own yet.

So we can borrow a million dollars (using the million dollar house as collateral) to
buy the house that we needed in order to get the million dollars to buy the house that
we used as collateral!

So, why am I telling you this?

Because your "quest" to unleash your Extraordinary Life works the exact same way
as that crazy lending system.

In order to attract the money, the resources, the people, even the internal discipline
that is ABSOLUTELY required to achieve a BIG GOAL, you need a BIG GOAL.

And this is where you all have been falling off the beam...

You've been thinking..."Well, if I HAD the money...or the time...or the network...or the
internal drive and discipline, of course I would start DREAMING BIG, THINKING BIG,
LIVING BIG...but I don't...so I won't".

But you've got it BACKWARDS.  

Trust in the system and find your "million dollar house".  Find that inspiring,
compelling, BIG Vision that excites you and (ideally) has the potential to excite (or
inspire) others and you'll find that the resources you need - just like the financing for
the house purchase - will start to appear.

But that takes faith.  And that takes courage.  And that takes a willingness to play
at a higher level than most people are comfortable playing.

So that's why few people UNLEASH their Extraordinary Lives.

But few doesn't mean NONE.  And Few can mean YOU.

If you step forward.

And I'm not talking only about "saving the world" here.

 I'm talking about achieving the body you want.  

I'm talking about eliminating your bad habits and replacing them
with ones that support and energize you.  

I'm talking about attracting or reinvigorating AMAZING relationships.

I'm talking about developing the skills and the vehicle to attract all of the money and
the freedom that you have ever dreamed about.

Those VISIONS - if big enough, if compelling enough, if REAL enough - are your
"Million Dollar Houses" and having them clearly defined will allow you to go to the
bank and get the "financing" you need to acquire them.

Benjamin Disraeli once wrote, "Life is too short to be little."

Are you ready to shake off mediocrity and start living BIGGER?

Then my challenge to you is to CLARIFY YOUR VISION and identify all that you
would need to attract -- from outside and from the inside - to bring that vision into
reality.

That's the path to YOUR Extraordinary Life!

Frazier

Frazier O'Leary
Marketing Master and Your Chief ELF (Extraordinary Life Facilitator)
The XL (Extraordinary Life) Project

P.S.  You don't have to take on UNLEASHING YOUR EXTRAORDINARY LIFE Alone.

MAKE THE DECISION to join our XL Accelerator program.  I can't tell you
how important making a COMMITMENT will be to your success.  I'm going to
make it worth your while - in terms of bonuses and even in terms of some
BIG income opportunities - but I'm asking you to trust me right now and
"make the leap".


    http://www.XLChallenge.com/ExtraordinaryOffer


I've reserved a few slots at my upcoming "MASTERING MARKETING:
Learn to Transform Your Life and Business by Applying Breakthrough
Marketing Strategies" small group mastermind workshop for long time
Real Estate CNG members  but I can't hold them forever.

Take action now and you'll have the confidence that NOTHING can hold you
back from UNLEASHING your Extraordinary Life over the next 30 days.

Here's a sampling of what you get when you "jump into the pool" with the
XL Accelerator package:

    * Bonus - our $1997 "Finding and Flipping" Training Program including
our "Finding and Flipping" manual, 3 months access to the "Finding and
Flipping" Wholesalers Resource Center, and a ticket to our Day Long
"Finding and Flipping" Wholesales Intensive Training

    * our "Real Estate Wealth Secrets" 175 page handbook with transcripts
of my interviews with  the top investors in DC, MD, and VA about:
          o Short Sales (Tammy Phelps)
          o Buy and Hold Investing (Joseph Asamoah)
          o Wholesaling (Brad Chandler)
          o Lease Options (Minh Pham)
          o Negotiation and Deal Closing (Jason Hanson)
          o Buying REOs (Will Lansing)

    * My "Your Extraordinary Life Unleashed" Handbook with exercises,  
checklists, and resources for supporting you transforming your life including:

          Organizing Your Environment
          Overcoming Information Overload
          Losing Weight
          Having more fun
          Tackling Your "undones"
          Building More Powerful Relationships
          Raising Healthier, Happier, more Successful Children
          Becoming a LEADER in your own life

    * The Video, Audio, and Materials from our "Mastering Marketing"  
mastermind Workshop (if  you miss out on attending)

    * BONUS Resources from XL Fitness Advisor, Josef Brandenburg, author of
"The Body You Want" and XL Self-Control Advisors, Dr. Alexis Platt and Tracy
James, from "The Craving Solution"
 
    * The XL Accelerator package comes with an unheard of "Delight and Amaze"
guarantee which states that if after 30 days, you are not seeing RADICAL changes
in your success through the program, not only will I refund your money, but I WILL
pay for the return shipping, AND I will pay you a $100.00 "Sorry I wasted your time" bonus!

    * You have NOTHING to lose and EVERYTHING to gain.  Make the decision now
to transform your life!

    http://www.XLChallenge.com/ExtraordinaryOffer

      I GUARANTEE that you'll be delighted that you did!

Just added the ability to report successes to BLOGs and Twitter via email

I'm a Bad A**.

Update to My Elimination List

Web development
Checking email
printing or fulfillment

Update to

Here's what I'm going to do over the next 90 days to bring my vision into reality:

Health and Fitness

• Diet:
• Abstain from Sugars/Sweets, Sodas, Fried Foods, Fast Foods for 90 days
• Focus on making healthy choices - vegetables and lean meats, and regular eating
• Smoking
• No cigars for 90 days
• Exercise:
• Trip to the gym 3-4 times a week
• Pushups every day
• Ab work every day
• Consulting a personal trainer and documenting what I'm doing
  

Marketing/Business:

• I'm focusing on getting Agent-Investor up and running and as efficient and compelling as possible (Focus on copywriting, streamlining our conversion funnel, and ensuring that students are having radical success). 
  
• Build XL Challenge up so that it works on its own and is inspiring people to join every day
• Develop Prior Day Planning - both for activities and emails so that I'm not sending out emails "day of"
  

Relationships:

• Develop my "She's Nuts" manual for applying game theory to being a better husband
• Track my proactive and loving behaviors
  
• Kids:
• Focus on being kind and present
• Focus on more play and teaching with Savannah
• Track my "inattentive" time - time when I'm working on my computer or notes vs. my attentive time.
  

Personal Organization:

• Stick to tracking of my office and car organization
• identify issues
• Develop a planner system
  
• Weekly purge of notes

Update to

My XL Vision for One Year From Now

Health and Fitness

• I am 200 lbs, fit and and active.  I have well defined arms, chest, shoulders, abs, and legs.  I am pain free and healthy.  I am active in all sorts of sports and activities.

Fun

• I have fun experiences every week - normal ones and scheduled "cool" ones.  Like going to Covert Ops camp in Florida, flying a MIG jet, paintball, skeet shooting, trips to Vegas, Mediterranean Cruise.

 

Marketing/Business

• My businesses (Agent-Investor, JointVenturePreneur, and XLChallenge) are netting me more than $100K per month and are fully "systematized" so that all I do is content creation, program design, and coaching.  I have delegated or outsourced everything that I "shouldn't" be doing.
  

Relationships

• My wife and I are reporting extraordinary levels of happiness and joy with me turning into a more loving and proactive husband.
• My kids are happy and kind and loving and I am the best father that I can be.

Skill Development

• I'm an extraordinary coach, copywriter, and marketing mind.
• I'm learning languages rapidly and effortlessly so that I can enjoy traveling and conversing.
  

Wildcard - Organization/Schedule/Discipline

• I have stayed on my personal environment management plan.
• I am very disciplined about my time and my energy/mood.

Service/Leadership/Impact:

• My projects - KidBiz and the Commonwealth Coalition - are attracting partners and resources.
  
• I am laying the groundwork for running for Governor of Virginia on a Entrepreneurship Platform.
  

Killing Two Birds - New Best Friend and Hobby Quest

I set up a new web site to help connect the guys/fathers around the neighborhood and do more sports (softball, football, volleyball, golf, etc).
http://www.XLChallenge.com/SOFASPorts (SOFA stands for the "Slightly Overweight Fathers Association" - right now, i'm on probation for being BEYOND "slightly overweight" but soon I will be on probation for being TDF (Too DAMN FIT!)

Operation Clean Office

Operation Clean Car

My Quest for A New Best Friend...

In addition to my quest to find a hobby, I have decided that I need to attract a new gang of friends, including (potentially) a best friend. I have had four best friends in my life and one remote best friend - all of which performed the difficult task of dealing with The Frazier admirably.

But I would like to have a new gang and see if there is a new Best Friend for the older, wiser Frazier.

So I am developing my friend acquisition plan and will keep everyone up to date.

A Quest for a Hobby

OK - so it has just occurred to me that the only HOBBY I have is worrying and thinking. (Well, during the football season, I worry and think about the Steelers and I sort of worry and think about politics a lot, but I'm not sure that those examples refute my point.)

So, as part of MY XL Challenge, I am going to FIND A HOBBY! I'm going to make a list and start connecting with the people who can make me a Hobbyist.

Here is my OFF THE TOP OF MY HEAD List:
- Fencing
- Golf
- Shooting
- Softball
- Volleyball
- Rock Climbing
- Civil War Re-enacting (or another war - are there Korean War re-enactors)
- Caricaturist
- Cooking
- Wood carving
- Gardening

I have already done a little exploring and found a place to take golf lessons and a fencing club nearby so My Quest has already begun... Stay Tuned.

Snippets from my Workout Video

SAME VIDEO:

Find more videos like this on XLChallenge.com/Frazier

Monday Weigh in

Today's Weigh in - Approx. 238 (I was hoping that my stomach flu was going to pay off dividends, but que sera' sera'.) I would like to note that even though I'm playing 18 pounds heavier than many NFL Linebackers, I am still sexy enough to attract the attention of a feisty female camel.

Marvin's Living Large

Last week, I created a page for Marvin that would represent what his "My Story" page would look like and how it would link into INSPIRING OTHER PEOPLE. Now, on THAT version of the page, the stuff that he's reporting has not yet happened. Obviously, you want YOUR "My Story" page to be filled with stuff that HAS Happened, the successes that you've had that inspire you and will inspire others to take on LIVING Extra Large/Extraordinary Life.

http://www.XLChallenge.com/MarvinLivingLarge

Busy day

I cleaned my car and office today. They look better than they ever have.

I'm at 7 days with no sweets, no sodas, and no cigars.

I've also added sections to the XL Challenge - a place for you to create a "My Story", "My Vision", and "My Plan" section. (http://www.XLChallenge.com/MyHomePage)